He/She is not that into you

Hello everyone,
When I started this blog a while ago, I used to dedicate a day (specifically Fridays I believe) to talk about things other than fashion. I really would like to get back to writing again, because that is one of my passion. I'm still working on my writing skills by the way but that's of no hindrance to me.

As the topic suggests, today I'll be talking about relationship issues. By no means do I consider myself a relationship expert or some kind of therapist or psychologist. I will just like to share with you what I have experienced in the past and what some of my girlfriends have shared about their different encounters in their own individual relationships.

Have you ever been so head over heels for a guy but something in the back of your mind either question his motives or doubt if the feeling is mutual? There are definitely some obvious tell tale signs that some women and some men sometimes ignore either because they do not want to believe that is happening to them. In no specific order, below are some of the tell tale signs he is just not into you

1) He/She is always agitated or too busy to hold a conversation with you. I personally think that, once in a while people might be caught up in their daily endeavors and they might not truly have time to hold long conversations with you but if it is someone who truly cares for you he/she can do one or two things. Not lead you on by telling you that they are not ready for relationship because of how busy they are, or will make time to talk to you . Besides if you are into someone, you will want to get to know them, and I don't care what anyone says, life before you met that person was the same throughout the relationship and yet you made time for them.

2)He/She doesn't acknowledge you when you are in public. When someone is into you, they are proud to tell anyone they encounter who they are with. I don't care how private of a person you are.

3)He/She thinks buying you a gift or flowers is a waste money even though they are not flat broke. Honestly, material things are not that important. Some people don't like flowers. Still just having that mentality usually is a red flag.

4) He/She never wants to do anything for you. Self explanatory.

5)He/She doesn't support you in your dreams and aspirations. He/She finds your aspirations ridiculous and always has something negative to say when you  bring up and idea. Basically it appears they never want to see you succeed.

6)He/She always has and explanation/reason as to why they are always right and why they didn't do something. Sometimes in a relationship, its all about compromise, and also accepting fault of certain actions or just agreeing that you are two different people and see things differently.

7)He/She openly/secretly dates other people or crosses boundaries with other people knowingly.Has no remorse when caught.

8)He/she never stands up for you or your relationship and always has an excuse why he/she doesn't.

9)Constantly arguing over the most insignificant things. Anything can spark up a disagreement that ends up being an argument.

10)Sometimes those arguments turn into physical, verbal and emotional abuse. Personally that's the ultimate sign he/she is not into you.

I believe I will stop here and I am very interested in everyone Else's opinion and or additional signs he is not into you. Ultimately if someone is into you, their ultimate goal is to see you happy even if they might not always on point. If you identify with more than half of this, I think there is really no need hanging in there. But if are accepting to alot of this situation, you will definitely need some counseling to help bring your self esteem back up.